Thursday, December 31, 2009

Why We Celebrate

makes me happy.


Kevyn and I had some interesting conversations this holiday season about what Christmas means to us and why we celebrate it.


While neither of us are particularly down with organized religion, we both believe most doctrines offer positive messages to the world. But even more dear to our heart then those words on paper are all those who actually live and spread the word of love,


peace,


compassion,


equality,


and happiness.


In our humble opinion...


these noble souls run the gamut from...


Siddhartha Gautama...


to Mother Teresa,


Rosa Parks...


to Mahatma Gandhi,


John Lennon to


Jesus Christ.


Since both Kevyn and I come from Christian heritages...


we happily honour and celebrate everyone who brings more peace and love into this world...


on the 25th day of December.


Amazing the amount...


of consciousness...


these little wee beings have already brought upon us.

Happy New Year and all the very best to you all.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Random Goodness

makes me happy.


Kevyn, Byrdie, Cashius and I have been having a most fantastic and relaxing holiday season.


I know the posting has been light here but I've been indulging in some lazy time before heading back to work next week.


While lazing around this evening I finished cleaning up, rating and labeling the last of my 2009 photos and came across a few gems that I hadn't yet shared.


Random...

and good.

I'll share the rest tomorrow.

Now back to that Modern Family re-run.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Full Of The Spirit

makes me happy.



May you find yourself feeling as full of the Christmas spirit as The Byrd does!

Health & happiness to you all friends.

Love
Kevyn, Stacy, Cashius & Byrdie
xoxox

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Being A Love Machine

makes me happy.


While sitting in our yellow chair the other evening, entertaining The Byrd during the half hour leading up to her bath, Cashius decided she just couldn't sit on the sidelines any longer, watching the baby get all my attention. So, without invitation, she hopped up on the chair and joined us.

I have no problem with that at all. Because, while I think I'm giving Cashius the same amount of love and attention I always have, there's a slight chance she doesn't feel the same way.

I've got nothing but love to give puppy dog, I'm never going to run out. And if you ever feel like you need more of it - no problem! I'm always open for business.

Monday, December 21, 2009

My Sista's Birthday & A Maloney Christmas Party

make me happy.


Today is my sister's birthday. As much as I don't like to have favourite's of anything, you may remember me saying that December 21st is my favourite day of the year - still true. But hey, if anyone out there has a sister as awesome as mine; you'd be picking favourite's too!

While I never cared whether Kev and I were going to have a baby girl or baby boy before, now that I have a girl I do secretly hope for another one. That's simply because I'd love Byrdie to experience the same kind of special relationship that Kelly and I share. And while I'm breaking all my rules today, I'd also like to say that while I'm not down with the whole role playing thing (see here), I LOVE playing the role of baby sister - mainly because Kelly plays the big sister role to perfection.

Having said that...


(and not really related), Kevyn and I got off the island yesterday!


The Maloney's were hosting a Christmas party,


complete with decked halls,

chilled cocktails,


warm appetizers,


and even a homemade birthday cake for Kelly!

Certainly worth leaving the island for.


Best of all, they filled the joint up with all of our nearest and dearest.


Christmas at the Maloney's - it'a good thing... a very, very good thing.

Thanks Dave & Em, and happy birthday big sis.

I'm a lucky girl.

Thursday, December 17, 2009

Making Your Christmas Shopping Easy

makes me happy.


Due to the high demand; Kevyn, Rob & myself have been back at, busy as the elves in Santa's workshop, building more of our fabulous magnetic frames!

We'll have a whole new batch ready for all your gifting needs by this Saturday (December 19th) afternoon.

Now in case you still haven't quite grasped the concept yet, we take original old frames that we have sourced from local thrift shops and markets, take out the glass and guts, replace them with a fresh white background and top them off with one or more metal plates that can hold your 4x6, 5x7, or 8x10 photos. And how do these metal plates hold your photos you ask? With magnets of course!

After much searching we were able to source the most simple and sleek little silver magnets we could. So small and strong are these magnets that you won't even notice them on your photo while holding it securely in place.


Now the part about them being the perfect gift? Well, how about you just try to imagine the look on your mom's (girlfriend's / husband's / grandparent's / best friend's ) face if you gifted her with a couple of these frames AND a card filled with photos of her and the family that she could change up in the frames everyday of the week if she so pleased - just because it's that easy to do.

And don't even get me started if you've got a photographer, or photography enthusiast on your Christmas list. Had someone ever gifted me with these frames I would have lost my mind!

The frames range in price from $20 - $80 dollars, magnets included.

So if you're living in Toronto stop by and finish off your Christmas shopping here. Our doors will be open from 1pm - 3pm on Saturday December 19th. Contact me for the address.


Then go home and have a nap while everyone else has it out at the malls!

Your welcome.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Holding The Power

makes me happy.



Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

- Abraham Lincoln

Monday, December 14, 2009

Future World Rulers

makes me happy.


Kevyn always says, 'Women would rule the world if they didn't hate each other so much.'

It took me a long time to understand what he meant as my life journey thus far has introduced me to many non-judgmental, loving, caring and giving women. Still, over the course of time I have crossed paths with these ladies Kev speaks of - those who have allow their egos to take control over them, finding more strength in bringing other females down rather then in lifting them up.

Well I think it would be safe to say that Marla, the mother of lovely little Charlotte (pictured above), my friend of 27 years, and I are hoping to breed more of the former female kind.

Future rulers of the world if you will.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Me Too.





you can't raise (them) to be scared of life.
you got to brew some recklessness into them.

-royal tenenbaum

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Trust

makes me happy.



I was having a really interesting conversation with someone the other day about when to stop parenting your children. This intelligent mother of 3 adult children said 'Never.'

I believe I have heard this very same story from my own parents. If I remember correctly, I'm fairly certain they told me I would understand when I became a parent myself.

Well honestly, I'm still not getting it. In fact Eckhart Tolle's words in A New Earth read even clearer and louder then before I had Byrdie.

The all-important question is: Are you able to fulfill the function of being a parent and fulfill it well, without identifying with that function, that is, without it becoming a role? Part of the necessary function of being a parent is looking after the needs of the child, preventing the child from getting into danger, and at times telling the child what to do and what not to do. When being a parent becomes an identity, however, when your sense of self is entirely or largely derived from it, the function easily becomes overemphasized, exaggerated, and takes you over. Giving children what they need becomes excessive and turns into spoiling; preventing them from getting into danger becomes overprotectiveness and interferes with their need to explore the world and try things out for themselves. Telling children what to do or not to do becomes controlling, overbearing.

What is more, the role-playing identity remains in place long after the need for those particular functions has passed. Parents then cannot let go of being a parent even when the child grows into an adult. Even when the child is forty years old, parents can't let go of the notion "I know what's best for you."

Now, I'm not saying that this lovely lady whom I was conversing with, or my own parents for that matter, were over-protective, overbearing parents. Just the opposite in fact.

Speaking for myself, I've always felt that my parents did an amazing job raising my sister and I. Always giving us enough slack to make learn from our own decisions and the experiences that resulted from said choices.

And while for the most part they don't parent us anymore, I find it so fascinating that they still feel the need, or desire, to.

In the end I believe it boils down to trust. Trusting that one day The Byrd will be well enough equipped to make all her own choices to live her very own best life ever - taking into account that her best life may be different from my own.

And also trusting in myself, that I have fulfilled my function as a parent as best as I possibly could (hopefully as well as my parents did), preventing my function from turning into a role-game we play with each other.

Freeing us both to simply enjoy each other.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

A 30 Second Time Span

makes me happy.



These 4 photos were shot in the order they appear and there was a 30 second time span between the first shot and the last.

I find them too funny.

You can tell that right out of the blocks Byrdie is not too sure about playing tummy time here.

Evan - he's cool.



Even when Byrdie looses her s#!t, Evan's still all like, 'What's up? Why you cry?'


And Byrdie's all like, 'I don't know why - but you better join me!'

Evan, 'Ahhhhhhh!'


And then Evan's like, 'Was that good?'

Byrdie, 'Perfect! What do you want to do now?'

Monday, December 7, 2009

Knowing My Time & Place

makes me happy.


I didn't realize until I went out for dinner last week, how much time I've spent at home these last 3 months.

While enjoying a beverage at the bar before dinner Kev put his hand on my shoulder and asked me if I was okay. 'Yeah' I responded, 'there's just so many people around me right now - I just haven't been off the island in a while.'

And that's exactly how I felt. Like I have spent the past 3 months on a cozy little island with Kevyn, Cashius, and Byrdie. A place where days are only marked by plans for family or friends to come by. A very calm, peaceful, and happy place.

And here I was, off the island, a little shell shocked.


But I knew I would be fine. In fact, I knew I would be better then fine. I've always thought it was a healthy idea for couples to enjoy time away from their children and that's exactly what I planned to do.

And did.

Dinner was amazing. The food, the service, the conversation and the company - all made time off the island worthy.


The night club afterward?

Not so much.


The moral of the story isn't dinner - good, dancing - bad.


It's that there's a time and place for everything.


And at this time in my life, the place for dancing is on the island!