Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Hey it's my birthday today!

So today, for my birthday, I had plans of posting the ultra sound picture I was having taken today of the new little baby Kevyn and I were expecting. Yup, a few of you had picked up on my clues, the mood swings, ketchup cravings, more mood swings and had guessed I was pregnant, and I was.

I was.

I'm not anymore. No heartbeat. No more baby. Just a lot of placenta and such that I need to have surgically removed tomorrow morning.

This is a lot of information. Maybe too much for some of you. But it's my blog and I feel like I want to share.

You know, I've always been the first to commend others for speaking frankly and openly about fertility issues. I think it's such a sensitive topic that affects so very many people and I also feel that when we open up and share our stories we not only help ourselves but often others who are experiencing the exact same hardships.

On that note I'd like to say... I'm Stacy Foley, I just suffered a miscarriage and one day I'm going to be alright.

Today, I'm going to cry a little - cool?

Oh, but there was going to be a second part to my originally planned post and that was of this little video I never posted from Byrdie's birth. While it doesn't have quite the same impact as if I was telling you 'Getting ready to do it all over again!' it does still make me very happy.


Tracy said...

I read your blog each day but don't often leave comments, so I hope this isn't weird. I commend your honesty, and am very sorry to hear this news. I wish you and Kevyn all the very best.

Tracy said...

Oops, I forgot to wish you a happy birthday. Happy birthday to you! I hope there is much sunshine in your day.

Anonymous said...

You are so courageous and inspiring. My heart is with you. Thank you for sharing such an intimatae part of being a woman on this day of celebrating women.

Amie said...

im so sorry. thinking of you and yours xx

Dr. Barb said...

Stacy and Kevin Thanks so much for sharing that video. It is precious and made me cry with joy and hope for your future and the expansion of your family.
lots of love and peace to you both!
Barb and Geoff

Mint Julep said...

So sorry Stacey. Thinking of you. You are in my heart.

BuenoStyle said...

Thank you for being brave enough to share this. It happens way more often than people realize, partly due to the fact that no one wants to talk about it.

All the best to you, and I hope you soldier through this into bright sunshine, eventually.

crosba@gmail.com said...

i've been a follower of your blog for a long time now and it has always been integral in keeping my spirits high and my perspective on life grounded.
thank you for being such an open and honest voice always.
thinking of you, kevyn and the byrd!

NutritiousMeg said...

Thanks for sharing your story Stac, I know it will help so many other women that go through this same painful experience. Sending my love to you, Kev, and the Byrd.
You're such a trooper :)

Anonymous said...

So sad. My heart is heavy for all of you. Here's to being a strong woman.

Suze said...

Oh Stacy and Kevy, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sending an extra special hug out to you today my friend!

justme said...

happy, happy birthday. i know it's probably bittersweet right now, but i wish you and Kevyn a great year ahead and much strength to get through this.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear of your loss... I'm thinking of your family at this difficult time.

Wishing you a wonderful (happier) year ahead Stacy.

- Valerie

lindsaymarie said...

thank you for having the courage to be honest about having some darkness when you're known for being happy... i know how tough that can be. you and kevyn are in my thoughts. thank you, as always, for sharing your life with us. much much love, and happy birthday.

...love Maegan said...

I THOUGHT SO ...about the preggo part. I'm so sorry for your loss :/ ... I've never actually gotten pregnant but I do understand the loss. I hope you find peace with it soon.



mettebassett.com said...

I'm so sorry for your loss and am sending loads of positive thoughts your way.

And thank you for sharing and for the lovely video.

attraversiamo said...


Thanks for having the courage and compassion to share this story with us. I am sending you lots of love and support from afar.

And thank you for sharing the video, it is absolutely beautiful.

And thanks for being such an example of how to find the happiness in each day and every situation. Your effect is very inspiring and significant.

Oh, and happy birthday! Our lives are so much happier with you in the world.

LisaG said...

Oh Stacy, I am so sorry. As someone who has been in your shoes I understand what you are going through.
Hopefully you can find some peace through all of this and love on Byrdie as much as you can. Children are sometimes the best balm for all our pains.

Wishing you the best and please, take all the time you need to cry, scream or whatever you need to do to make yourself feel better.

Anonymous said...

I have read your blog for years with much enjoyment! I too have been in the same place as you are right now and believe me you will be better and be a Mother again, I can promise you that! much lov xoxo

Kate said...

Sorry to hear your sad news. You're in my thoughts.

As always, I admire your honesty and strength.

And that video of Byrdie's birth is just beautiful!

Sheila K said...

I as well, look forward to reading your blog entries every time you update it. I feel like I have learned a lot from your amazing outlook of life and love. I am so sorry for your loss and shed a tear for what you must be going thru. Thank goodness for your amazing family to help you go thru this difficult time.

Kwil said...

First, happy birthday. Second, horribly sad news :(
It is definitely commendable to be open and honest. The rawness gives others a chance to relate, giving all a chance to grow and find strength together based on shared experiences.
My thoughts are with you, Stacy.

Life in the Hills said...

You are so going to make it through this, I've been reading your blog for over a year now and your strength and honesty is inspiring.
God works in mysterious ways, keep your faith and trust his judgement.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Your on your way to be indestructible.

Lemon Gloria said...

I am so very very sorry. I read your comment on my blog this morning but didn't get to catching up on blogs till now.

It's just heartbreaking. I know you were so excited, so ready to share the news. As you said, maybe we'll both get preg again and have our next babies at the same time!

Wishing you a happy belated birthday (ugh, what a hard birthday) and a year filled with good things and happy surprises. You deserve all the happy possible.

beans said...

just catching back up and was very sorry to read this post. i admire your honesty.